I have never been very creative. I have however always been very good at copying others creativity. 

A friend of mine had made a decoration with her child's name on it to put on the wall. Thankfully because of her, she took me to Hobby Lobby, (my new favorite craft store) where everything was on sale, so I could buy the supplies and do the same thing. 

Not only was making this therapeutic for me, but it was super easy and made me feel so accomplished. I know after seeing my oh so cute photo you're all wondering, how did she do it? :) Well I am here to tell you.

Supplies you will Need

Letters, Mod Podge and brush, scrap book paper, sticky tac and any other accessories you would want to add to it to liven it up.

Steps

1. Go to the store and buy the letters that you want... there are SOO many letters to choose from. My friend had foam/cardboard based letters that I would have used but they didn't have any H's left. They have wood letters in all different sizes, which is what I choose, and they had some already done letters. (which I didn't want because they were more expensive and I wanted to make them myself.) Choose scrapbooking paper, which I had so much fun with! I already had a rocket ship theme for my sons room, but I always liked dinosaurs, so i decided to put the two together. Buy all the other accessories and everything else you will need.

2. You need to cut out the paper so it is shaped like your letter. I will admit that I messed up with my C the first time I traced the letter and cut it out, I did it backwards, so I had to go back to the store and get another piece of paper. Once all the letters are cut out your ready for step 3.

3. Brush your letters with the Mod Podge and very carefully put your scrap book paper on top of the letter. One thing I noticed was as mine was starting to dry, bubbles were forming under the paper, so make sure to press the paper down and smooth it out.

4. Now that all the letters are covered, you can do 1 of 2 things. 

a. If you noticed on my letter H there is a rocket ship sticker at the bottom of the H, but on the letters A and D are pop up stickers. For the letter that have stickers on them I placed the stickers where I wanted them to go and then repainted over the top with mod-podge. For those of you who have never used mod podge before, there are 2 different kinds you can buy, 1 that will leave a glossy look and one that will leave a more rustic look. (I used the more rustic look, for no reason other then it was what my friend used. When you cover your letter it looks like you glued your letter, but when it dries, it dries clear.) 

b. For those of you with pop up accessories, you will paint over your letter with mod podge first and once its dry, you will then add your accessories. 

5. After your accessories are on and they are looking good it is now time to put them on the wall. Depending on what type of letter you picked and how heavy they are I would suggest different methods. But what I did was put sticky tac on the back of my letters and stuck them to the wall. Granted I didn't want any of them falling so I used a lot of sticky tac.

Now that you are finished I hope you feel as good as I did. It was really nice to be able to make something that I think looks really good and know that I did it. If you feel like I do and don't feel like you could come up with these things by yourself, there are so many options for you. There is pinterest which is nice, and also many magazines, even in the store that you can look at. There is still hope out there for EVERYONE! :) 

COUPLE TUNE UP

Kaylee here, as many of you know by now I am a Human Development major but I hope to one day do therapy for couples and families. I get newsletters every now and then from professors in my major and their advice. Jonathan Sandberg is a Marriage and Family Therapist who I have actually had a class with before. He is outstanding and I love every minute I have to listen to his advice. Here is GREAT advice on how to tune up a marriage that may not be 100% satisfactory.  A Quick Couple Tune-Up: Remember A.R.E.    ​Dr. Jonathan Sandberg, School of Family Life I remember working once with a young couple who I believe had been married less than a year.  Though the symptoms were common (periods of distance followed by conflict and more distance), I struggled as a therapist to understand the cause of the problems.  After several sessions, I finally asked them to describe their daily routine and was surprised to find out that as newlyweds they spent, on some work days, less than 90 minutes in each other’s presence, and that time was often in front of the TV.  They seemed to spend a majority of time on separate interests, and with separate friends, and had quickly evolved to a roommate type of marriage, with little deep connection or intimacy of any kind. I have noticed particularly over the last five years that this is a real and common problem for couples in this fast-paced, hectic world.  Has your marriage slowly slipped to a co-parent or roommate arrangement?  If so, what are the causes, and how can you return to the “full enchilada” model of marriage, where spouses are best friends, lovers, and true equal partners?  Although there are many excellent books and programs aimed at improving marital connection, may I suggest a simple acronym and a way to measure and improve marital closeness. The acronym is A.R.E and stands for: Accessibility Responsiveness Engagement Research on attachment in couple relationships has shown that in order to build a secure bond in marriage, partners need to demonstrate accessibility and responsiveness that leads to engagement.  Accessibility can be simply defined as, “I can find you; you are availability to me.”  Accessibility requires frequent physical proximity and emotional availability.  Common, modern threats to accessibility include physical separation from a partner (e.g., work, church, kids, travel, hobbies) and a multitude of distractions (e.g., technology, screen time) that prevent emotional presence.  In the case of the couple mentioned previously, they were often in the same house, but in separate rooms working on a laptop or watching TV or reading a book. Accessibility means I can find you and approach you.  A lack of accessibility prevents connection.  Problems related to accessibility can often be resolved by making concrete changes in our schedule and habits to be more present, physically and emotionally. Responsiveness means when you approach me, I respond with emotional attentiveness.  It means I look at you, hear you, feel you, and respond in loving and affirming ways.  Again, one of the greatest threats to responsiveness is technology-based distractions.  It is astounding to me how many students and even adult friends or colleagues are in the habit of not-responding to phone calls, texts, e-mails and even face-to-face communication.  It has become common to say, “I heard you” or “I got your message, but did not respond.”  In marriage, this is dangerous because it communicates to a partner, “you are not important now,” and, “I care about other things more than you.”  Non-responsiveness erodes trust and connection.  Problems related to responsiveness can often be resolved by “unplugging” the distractions that prevent us from looking into our partner’s eyes and reaching out to them. Engagement means that when you are accessible and sincerely try to respond to my needs, we connect.  This type of connection, built over time, forges a safe haven and secure base in marriage and brings a sweetness, peace, and strength which is unique and powerful among human relationships.  Common threats to engagement, beyond a lack of accessibility and responsiveness, are often skill-based.  For example, I can be accessible and sincerely responsive, but when my wife comes to me in tears about an insecurity or fear, I may give advice instead of validating and reassuring her worth and value.  This advice-giving can block engagement.  A consistent lack of engagement fosters isolation and disconnection.  Problems related to engagement (when A and R are present) can often be resolved by simply learning new and more effective ways to communicate love and support to our spouse. A quick A.R.E. tune-up conversation can be prompted by the following brief 12-item questionnaire.  I urge you to take a few minutes to answer the questions then discuss how you can improve as a couple.  Remember, the peace, love, and joy that come from experiencing a safe haven and secure base in marriage is worth the effort. Circle the number that best represents your experiences in your current relationship with your partner. (To score, first reverse the scores for items 3, 4, 9, 10 (that is, for these items, 5=1, 4=2, 3=3, 2=4, 1=5). Then sum the items. Lower scores mean behaviors are present that lead to stronger attachment, and higher scores mean lack of behaviors that lead to strong attachment.) https://familylife.byu.edu/lifelonglearning/Lists/Posts/Post.aspx?ID=8 For additional reading see: Sue Johnson. (2008). Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. Little Brown Books: NY. Sandberg, J. G., Busby, D.M., Johnson, S.M., & Yoshida, K. (in press). The brief accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement (BARE) scale: A tool for measuring attachment behavior in couple relationships. Family Process.​